Like the desperate haircut you get when your stylist is on vacation, season three on Netflix Love is blind You will mutter again and again: This is not what I asked for.
Love is blind Premiering in 2020, it was originally billed as a three-week Netflix event, a social-romance experiment testing whether or not people can love each other invisibly. “Experiment” became a generous description with its vague scientific and controlled connotations.
As the seasons went by, it became very clear that the process was anything but scientific or controlled.
Here it is Love is blind It went from a sociological fairy tale to a reality TV nightmare in just three seasons.
Love is blind Must be about finding love blindly
The gist of the show is that no one ever buys a car or rents an apartment without seeing it in person, let alone marrying someone they don’t look up to. However, Netflix producers found a group of people who said they were getting married to someone they had never met. These guinea pigs are lavishly lit, mic’d up and placed on our TV screens.
For 10 days or so, these romantics will check into “pods,” cozy little rooms with a couch and a shared wall, talk to their future spouses, and film their interactions. The show calls those conversations “dates” and qualifies as multi-date boyfriend/girlfriend (the couples are heterosexual in all three seasons). If those dates end, those strangers become “exes” — but if they’re successful, the ultimate goal is to get engaged four weeks later.
Love is blind Likes to call things by other names, creating (or at least trying to create) a surreal reality where traditional customs and definitions are suspended.
The first season resulted in two married couples – Cam and Lauren (so sweet and adorable) and Barnett and Amber (less adorable, but good for them) – who are still married to this day. Cam and Lauren’s hookup was the show’s best moment in “The Trial.” They’re both very good looking, have regular jobs (he’s a scientist, she’s a social media content creator) and have supportive friends and family. If seemingly normal, very hot people can genuinely love under such wild circumstances, this show can’t be too far off.
The biggest breakout star, however, was Jessica, a woman who was engaged to a man named Mark at the Pods, but was actually more into Barnett.
Jessica tried to woo Barnett after the spikes, which made it difficult for the rest of the cast, including her own girlfriend. Jessica also became sad, got drunk, and fed wine to her dog. Shortly after this, fans and cast members dubbed her “Mesica” to help triangulate her chaotic energy.
The producers noticed this and used what they learned from Jessica in their experiments. I predicted that the more seasons the show went on, the more cynical it would become. And look, I was right.
In season two’s most face-to-face persona, Shayna, a hairstylist, seemed intent on wreaking havoc as she became attracted to engaged couple Natalie and Shane. The second season also featured Jarrett and Mallory, who developed feelings for each other despite being engaged to other people. Jarrett and his partner Aiyana were one of two married couples on the show, but both eventually disbanded.
The producers also found Shayk, who by his own description was laser-focused on marrying a woman small enough to carry on his shoulders during a music festival. Nothing was more important to him than this quality, and he was extremely rude to his partner, Deepti, because she was too big for him to lift like Coachella. Sheik was 33 years old at the time of filming.
The couples failed but the show was successful.
Producers added a follow-up, three-episode installment, Love Is Blind: After the Altar In September 2022. The extra episode caught up with the cast of the second season to see if any romances had sparked after initial filming. However, the show aired after couples announced their real-life breakups and divorces, turning the viewing experience into a kind of dying relationship autopsy.
And that brings us to this demented third season, a show that barely resembles its original but for different reasons I’ve come to appreciate.
Are there thoughtful pairings based on mutual respect? Not exactly. Are there potential couples digging deep to share their true selves without the burden of physical appearance? Not so much.
But there are more face-to-face moments between contestants and forced interactions between failed couples and exes. That led to a sharp increase in men telling their partners that other women were hotter than them. Instead of a quest to find love, the show has become a will-they-won’t-they dodging bullets.
And I can’t stop looking. Because have you ever wanted to watch someone’s shit get worse and worse as you tune in week after week? If not, I encourage you to give it a try.
Love is blind Season three is less about love and more about red flags
“Flies! in! his! The toilet! Flies in his toilet! “
I was alone at home when I screamed. I did it not for anyone to hear, but to reassure myself that I wasn’t hallucinating or having a stroke. This hideous image appears in episode seven. Four flies huddle together in the sink of Cole’s closet, scavenging for dirt that hasn’t been cleaned in weeks.
Cole, 27, is one of the male contestants in this installment and has become the show’s fiercest villain. He says he was attracted to two women, Colleen and Sanab, but chose Sanab because of the emotional connection they formed. That didn’t stop him from telling Colleen, when he saw her, that he was very attracted to her – much more than he was to Sanab. At one point, he tells Sanab about his attraction to Colleen, more or less the same way he expressed it to Colleen. To no one’s shock, it doesn’t go well.
Cole and Sanab’s other conflicts include him not wanting to leave his wet towels on the floor, tables and beds. Her distaste for the wet towels strewn around their living areas and her direct request for him to pick them up, Cole says, is passive-aggressive. On several occasions, Cole tells Sanab that she is not the type of girl (Colleen) would normally date and that Cole’s parents have no intention of dating her. At one point, he asks if she’s bipolar, not as a genuine question about her mental health, but as an insult. Also, flies in the toilet!
These two people wouldn’t be together if it didn’t seem like each contestant’s contractual obligation to walk their future spouse down the aisle in their wedding attire. And that’s exactly the point.
what are you doing Love is blind So powerful that it magnifies dating — the disappointment, the miscommunication, the anxiety, the arguments — to such an awkward and overwhelming degree that regular, real-life dating feels like a relief.
As bad as things get in the real world, it’s unlikely that anyone will tell you that you’re psychotic and passive-aggressive for wanting someone to hang up their towel. As much as we treated people, we never told them — as Bartis, another male contestant, tells his partner Nancy — that they weren’t a “smoke show,” and we never told them — as Bartis does to Nancy — how our partners don’t share the same political views. Shout out to family, family members are expected to bully our partners into changing their minds.
These dysfunctional relationships exist to assure the audience at home that we are smart enough to remove ourselves from these relationships. Of course, if this kind of toxicity ever entered our lives we would be aware enough to avoid it… right?
What sets this season apart, however, is how much Cole (and, to a lesser extent, Bartis) has spent waiting for some sort of comeuppance. The show’s dramatic tension hinged on the hope that these men would experience something worse than being discarded. Maybe I’m a vindictive jerk, but doesn’t everyone have an ex like that?
Maybe, after the 30th time she tells him to take his wet towel and remove his dirty underwear, and the 29th time he insists she’s a crazy ass, Sanab will finally leave Cole. Maybe someone — maybe our hosts Nick and Vanessa Lachey — will step in and tell Cole that he’s a grown baby and that Sanab needs to love her. But it never happened. A lion takes a chomp from a zebra and the zebra walks around with its belly like a nature documentary you can’t show to little kids. Love is blind Keeps the camera rolling.
The closest thing the show gave us to some kind of justice was the reunion, where Sanab and the female contestants said that Cole was extremely immature and would not be happy to date. At one point, they mention that the editors were too kind to Cole and didn’t show his more obnoxious behaviors – mainly fat-shaming Sanab. After telling Sanab that she’s “crazy” and “crazy,” the rest of the cast asks Cole not to use smart language, to which he responds that, well, Sanab is a liar.
Just when I thought I could make up my mind and throw this season away, the evil producers of this horror show inserted a post-credits scene that seemed designed to wreak further havoc on my already corroded brain.
Throughout the reunion, a story about Cuties, easy-to-peel, sweet mandarin oranges, kept popping up. Sanab said she wanted to eat two but Cole shamed her into not eating them. This scene had never been shown. The producers later included the footage as a post-credits scene, which shows Cole telling her not to spoil her “appetite”. The interaction didn’t seem as dire as Sanab made it out to be, and the damage was done: I couldn’t fully trust Sanab anymore.
For the first time this season, it wasn’t clear who was wrong, who was right, and what was the truth in a seemingly simple, obvious, horrible relationship. While it’s long established that love isn’t really blind, this season’s revelation that relationships — even short, made-for-TV ones — aren’t neat made the supernatural show more real than ever.
I was left with the choice of a man with flies in his toilet or a woman who loves a man with flies in his toilet. A fat-shaming man and woman who might exaggerate the psychological violence of this Cuties interaction. It’s not a glamorous choice, but it does confirm one thing: it’s okay to be single. Well, until next season, of course.